Hey ladies, partner need a huge hint? I wrote this post with your honey in mind. So send it on over. I’m sure they’ll appreciate the direction!

If your girl cares about the environment, right now she could use some love. She’s probably tearing her hair out every single day about what is going on in politics. She might feel like she can’t relax for a moment, or enjoy life, because the world is falling apart. She’s scrolling through Facebook, sighing, throwing her phone down, then picking it back up again to find out where the next protest is.

But you need to give her permission to just relax and feel loved for at least one day. (If she doesn’t believe you when you tell her to put the phone underneath the mattress, show her this.)

And Valentine’s Day is the perfect opportunity to take her mind off things with a thoughtful gift. I’ve put together a guide to picking out just the thing to take her mind off the trashfire in D.C., and to make her remember that you’re here by her side. You’re going to get through this, together.REST1-articleLarge

If you take her to dinner…

Choose a restaurant that serves organic, locally sourced food. More importantly, make sure you are familiar with her allergies and preferences – vegan, vegetarian, pescetarian (vegetarian except for fish), gluten-free, raw, paleo, conscious carnivore (only eats meat and fish if she knows where it comes from) – so you can thoughtfully pick out a place where she can order almost anything off the menu. Nothing pleases me more than when my dude has done his research and found an amazing restaurant that is organic and farm-to-table without any help from me! Here’s a nationwide list of green restaurants, and here’s a list of the best farm-t0-table restaurants in NYC.

 

 

If you get her jewelry…

To me, Valentine’s Day has always been a time for elegant, delicate, romantic jewelry, not statement or costume jewelry. But really, don’t be above peeking in her jewelry box to see what her style is: classic, raw and organic, boho, geometric? Also, go for simple items that she can wear every day – that way it will become a favorite thing, instead of something she’s always trying to figure out how to integrate into her outfits and failing to.

Beyond that, look for jewelry that is – at a minimum – made with recycled metals. That’s an easy one for a designer to do, and if not, then the gold might have been torn out of the poisoned earth by exploited workers. If you are getting fine jewelry with precious stones, look for stones that are certified conflict-free, and/or sourced responsibly. (For semiprecious and less expensive stones, it will be harder to find certified stones, so don’t stress yourself out.) Also look for jewelry that is made by a fairly paid artisan, either locally to you or abroad. Oh, and don’t get her a ring, unless you are asking her to marry you, or trying to do a promise ritual or something. Stick with earrings, a bracelet, or a necklace.

I’ve picked out some pieces that are beautiful, but will appeal to a majority of women in their simplicity.

Handmade in Kenya from upcycled brass

Handmade in Kenya from upcycled brass

Recycled gold and ruby studs

Recycled gold and ruby studs

Made in the US with recycled materials

Made in the US with recycled materials

Recycled whtie gold chain and conflict- and devastation-free diamonds

Recycled white gold chain and conflict- and devastation-free diamonds

Recycled white gold and diamond earrings

Recycled gold and diamond earrings

Handmade in NYC using overstock materials

Handmade in NYC using overstock materials

Made in the USA of recycled materials

Made in the USA of recycled materials

Handmade in California with recycled brass from eco-friendly refiner

Handmade in California with recycled brass from eco-friendly refiner

Custom signet necklace made from recycled gold, with or without diamond

Custom signet necklace made from recycled gold, with or without diamond

Recycled 18-carat gold, made in the U.S.

Recycled 18-carat gold, made in the U.S.

If you get her chocolate…

Make it organic and fair trade. Now, I have to say, this one might be a little harder to find, because most organic and fair trade chocolate is the kind you find in grocery stores, which isn’t as romantic as a heart-shaped box of truffles. But here are some prettily packaged chocolates that you can order to your home.

Valentine's Day Chocolate: Handmade using certified organic ingredients sourced from South Africa, mixed with antioxidant-packed cocoa nibs, packaged in recycled papers.

Valentine’s Day Chocolate: Handmade using certified organic ingredients sourced from South Africa, mixed with antioxidant-packed cocoa nibs, packaged in recycled papers.

Bean-to-bar chocolate straight from San Francisco. The single-origin Mantuano comes from a female-run co-op in Venezuela.

Bean-to-bar chocolate straight from San Francisco. The single-origin Mantuano comes from a female-run co-op in Venezuela.

Valentine's Day Chocolate: A gift box brimming with sea salt & vanilla, maple cream, chai, and cocoa latte caramel treats. Located in Townshend, VT, Big Picture Farm uses the milk from their 28 Saanen, Alpine, and floppy-eared Nubian goats to create their award-winning farmstead goat milk caramels.

Valentine’s Day Chocolate: A gift box brimming with sea salt & vanilla, maple cream, chai, and cocoa latte caramel treats. Located in Townshend, VT, Big Picture Farm uses the milk from their 28 Saanen, Alpine, and floppy-eared Nubian goats to create their award-winning farmstead goat milk caramels.

Chocolate Naive roasts bean-to-bar varieties in a small town in Lithuania. Committed to transparency, cocoa farmers around the world are offered 40% more than market price for their yield. Visiting all farmers at least once a year, Chocolate Naive ensures every step of their process is mindful of the environment and community.

Chocolate Naive roasts bean-to-bar varieties in a small town in Lithuania. Committed to transparency, cocoa farmers around the world are offered 40% more than market price for their yield. Visiting all farmers at least once a year, Chocolate Naive ensures every step of their process is mindful of the environment and community.

If you get her flowers…

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Don’t get them from a conventional florist, which probably imported them from South America from farms that exploit workers and overuse pesticides. Instead, buy her flowers from a florist that sources locally, seasonally, and from organic farms. You can find a local florist at Slow Flowers.

If you get her lingerie…

Please, don’t go to Victoria’s Secret. Not only will she balk at its cheap, polyester items, she might bring up the fact that she finds the over-photoshopped “angels” to be damaging to girls’ and women’s body image. If you want to get her something that she will look and feel smashing in, look for real silk or organic cotton lingerie sewn locally or by fairly paid workers in safe conditions. (If she is vegan, though, stay away from silk. Traditional silk is made by boiling silk worms inside their cocoons. Sorry for the image – better I tell you than her freak out on you!)

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Eco-Friendly Valentine's Day Gift Eco-Friendly Valentine's Day Gift: Silk Lingerie

If you want to go the extra mile…

Get her an experience. Experiences are more sustainable than objects because they don’t require a lot of harvesting of materials or shipping to get to you. Plus, research shows that experiences lead to longer-lasting happy memories, as opposed to objects.

Some sustainable and romantic experiences include:

  • a cooking class
  • a wine and cheese tasting
  • a visit to a brewery or distillery
  • a day trip by train to a cute little town outside of the city
  • an outdoor adventure
  • a walking or bike tour that pertains to something she’s curious about
  • a scavenger hunt
  • or an intimate art or musical performance